The beginning of a relationship is always exciting. Two people are attracted to each other, begin to discover more about one another, and can see the relationship grow.
Relationships aren’t difficult. They’re really not.
People are difficult. People make things overly complicated. They screw up and make mistakes. They lie and cheat.
They make and break promises.
Building and maintaining a long-term relationship can require some work, but it’s also incredibly rewarding.
No relationship is perfect. It doesn’t matter how great a relationship appears from the outside, there are always going to be trials. It’s part of sharing a life with a person that is different in some way.
1. Compromise. Compromise is key to any relationship. Without compromise, the relationship becomes one-sided, with just one of you getting what you want and living the life you want to live. The other is simply along for the ride and waiting for a turn.
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If you want to save your relationship, you’re going to have to go out of your way to let your partner have his or her way.
2. Communication is also a vital element in understanding each other. You may think that you already know your partner, but do you know about their day? Do you know if they’re overwhelmed, feeling sick, unappreciated, or a hundred other things they may be thinking or feeling? Open communication is the only way to maintain equilibrium while further progressing in a relationship.
3. We all make mistakes in a relationship, but part of making a relationship last is willingness to admit these mistakes. If you committed a mistake, simply apologize to your partner. Being stubborn and insisting that you were right when you were clearly wrong is much worse than the blunder itself.
Further, it’s not enough to mumble “I’m sorry…” while your partner is walking away. Sincerity and eye contact are important elements to any apology. Forego your pride and state your apology with meaning.
Also, learn to accept each other’s apology. Stubbornness can also be present on the recipient’s side; so if your partner is sincerely apologetic, accept the words with sincerity and move on.
4. Do not listen to gossip: This is mostly for those who have popular boyfriends. You are on your own and someone calls you and says,; “Hey Lola, I saw your boyfriend with one girl I heard this, I heard that etc.” I am not insinuating you play deaf to everything you hear because you might just be the one to be laughed at, at the end of the day. But do not listen to everything you hear. Close your ears to false rumours. This leads me to the next point.
5. Trust your partner: True love is based on trust. When you trust your partner, you and your partner can go a long way. This can save your relationship from turning sour. When you trust your partner, you can tell the difference between a false advice and a good one. Trust goes a long way.
6. Do not repay evil for evil: We all know that two wrongs don’t make a right. Repaying evil with evil is never a good option for anyone let alone two people in a relationship.
7. You need to focus more on your partner's happiness than your own.
True love means loving someone so much that the only way you can be happy is by making your partner happy. If you want your relationship to work, you need to have this kind of love.
This love may seem one-sided to you. But it's not. When you focus on your lover’s happiness, your lover should be focusing on yours. You have to be each other’s best friends, confidants, advisors and biggest fans.
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When things get difficult in a relationship, we tend to create space, withdraw and zero in on how we’re feeling. We focus on how we see the relationship. We focus on all the things we feel aren’t working, in short, on the negative.
How do you expect something to work out when you aren't communicating your problems? How do you expect things to resolve without sharing your feelings with each other?
Stop focusing on the negative. Learn to be positive. Your relationship won’t have a chance of making it if you've already thrown in the towel. And if you’ve already given up on your relationship, how can you say you’re trying to make it work?
Not everyone is lucky to fall in love twice in a lifetime. So if you have a good person, hold on to what you have and don’t let go.
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